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Gay Veterans Will Have Their Day in Court

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I though some people would find this interesting.

We may be a few months out from the new year, but it’s safe to say that the demise of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell will be marked as a highlight of 2011. The end of that discriminatory statute and its demeaning implications to the men and women who serve our country is something to be celebrated. But even though DADT is gone, the legacy of unfair treatment of gay and lesbian veterans continues.

One of those legacies is the Defense Department‘s separation pay policy for discharged service members. If you serve six years in the military and are then discharged involuntarily, Congress says you’re entitled to separation pay to help ease your transition to civilian life. But the DOD has an internal policy — not required by any statute — of cutting that separation pay in half if you’re discharged, even honorably, for “homosexuality.”

 

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Finally, over 50% of America supports gay marriage!

The Washington Post/ABC news took a poll asking “Do you think it should be legal or illegal for gay and lesbian couples to get married?” Surely enough, the number of people who replied that gay marriage should be legal increased by 17 percent making it now 53%!

According to 365Gaynews.com the “results indicate increased support from men, college-educated whites, political independents and participates who are not religious-affiliated.”

The poll was randomly conducted by phone from March 10 to 13 and sampled 1,005 adults.

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Questions Students May Ask and Possible Reponses About Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender People

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I have found a pdf from HRC that can help adults answer questions asked by children that they don’t fully understand. However, I think this pdf can help people of all ages, please take a look.

Here is a little snippet, I will provide the pdf at the bottom.

What does “gay” mean?
Being gay means that a person loves, in a very special way, someone who is the same gender. For example, a gay man wants to be involved with and love another man. A gay woman, or
lesbian, wants to be involved with and love another woman. Gay people might choose to have a special relationship with someone and share their home and have a family together. Keep it simple. Focus on relationships and family. For older students you could say, “Men who are attracted to and want to have romantic relationships with men.” Or, “Women who are attracted to and want to have romantic relationships with women.” (Note: For more definitions see: What Does Gay Mean? on page C2)

 

What’s a lesbian?
The word “lesbian” describes a woman who is attracted to and wants to have a romantic relationship with a woman. Or you could say that a lesbian is a woman who wants to fall in love with or is in love with another woman in a very special way. How does someone know if they are gay? At what age do you become gay? Some people may realize they are gay when they are teenagers, while others may not figure it out until they are much older. Being gay has to do with a feeling deep inside of you. (Note: People who are LGBT often say they may have felt different when they were younger but that they didn’t
identify this feeling of difference with being gay until they were teenagers or older.)

 

Are you born LGBT?
People don’t know for sure. Scientists have not been able to agree about why some people are LGBT. However, most scientists believe that sexual orientation is just a part of who you are when you are born. (According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Sexual orientation probably is not determined by any one factor but by a combination of genetic, hormonal and environmental influences. In recent decades, biologically based theories have been favored by experts.”1)

 

Is it a choice?
No, it is not a choice. People don’t choose to be gay or not. As people grow older they become aware of feeling attracted to others, whether those feelings are for someone of the same gender, a different gender or both. (According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Sexual orientation is usually established during early childhood.”2)

Questions Students May Ask and Possible Reponses About Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender People

“Ex-Gay” Ministries

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So I was looking for something to write about and I came across this article by TWO called “Here is Why People Disrespect So-Called “Ex-Gays” Like Christopher Doyle“. Unfortunately, there was much ranting and non-existent statistics and facts that backed his article. So I brought it upon myself to find these statistics and facts that can finally prove what the value of these ministries are.

On a side note, I will not recognize “ex-gay’s” as a sexual orientation and will continue to put the name in quotations. 🙂

For you that don’t know what “Ex-gay” ministries are let me explain: “Ex-gay,” according to Wikipedia, is a term and concept used to describe persons who were once considered to be gay, lesbian or bisexual, but who no longer assert that identity. The goal of these ministries is toconvert gays and lesbians from having a homosexual orientation into heterosexuals,” ultimately.
Oh, by the way, I have provided all of my sources which are at the bottom for your reference. Enjoy.

To continue, Dr Ariel Shidlo and Dr. Michael Schroeder, mind you that there are no evidence of bias, did a 7-year study of “ex-gays” called “Changing Sexual Orientation: a consumer’s report” that was published in a peer reviewed journal in 2001. Pretty much, the study was based on the success rate, or should I say, failure rate of “Ex-gay” Ministries. Here are the results:

Study subjects: 202
Number that were no longer struggling and were fully heterosexual: 8
Of those 8, number that were not employees or volunteers of ex-gay groups: 1
Number that felt they had failed: 176
Number who felt conversion had done long term harm: 155
Number who attempted suicide during therapy: 23
Number who attempted suicide after therapy: 11
Number who reported spiritual harm: 100

It makes you wonder why these practices are permitted logically, morally and ethically. Even before 1973, when the American Psychological Association eliminated homosexuality as a mental disorder (Bayer, 1981), repeated studies by top mental health researchers confirmed it was virtually impossible to change someone’s sexual orientation, even through behavioral therapy measures such as electric shock treatments and pain therapy (aversive conditioning), hypnosis, psychotropic medications, clinical/religious individual and group therapy, and others had been employed (Shidlo & Schroeder, 2002; Spitzer, 2003). Even now the American Psychological Association, in bold, concludes “efforts to change sexual orientation are unlikely to be successful and involve some risk of harm.” They also go on to say “Same-sex sexual attractions, behavior, and orientations per se are normal and positive variants of human sexuality—in other words, they do not indicate either mental or developmental disorders…Gay men, lesbians, and bisexual individuals form stable, committed relationships and families that are equivalent to heterosexual relationships and families in essential respects.”

To close, there is more proof that these ministries are illegitimate: One of the most outspoken people claiming that they were “cured” was John Paulk, who became active with the anti-gay groups Focus on the Family and Exodus. He was “cured” to the point that, after marrying and having children, he went to the Washington D.C. gay bar Mr. P’s where he purchased drinks for other bar patrons for over an hour and later claimed he did not know it was a gay bar and only entered to use the restroom.

Please, people understand that you can not believe everything you read or hear and know that some people will do whatever they can to persuade you to do what they want. Understand that a “fact” without reoccurring proof from unbiased, un-benefiting individuals is not a fact but a warped lie and opinion. Please do your own research and come up with your own conclusion instead of letting someone else make them for you. Research the links I have provided and more. I even challenge you to prove me wrong. Please, don’t get scammed.

XD.

Sources:

http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_evan.htm

http://www.truthwinsout.org/pressreleases/2011/03/15085/

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080717192807AA99Eyl

http://a_musing.blogspot.com/2006/05/ex-gay-statistics-101.html

http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/sexual-orientation.aspx

http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/Paulk-Southern%20Voice.html

New Gay Anthem?? Possibly.

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Here is the new Lady Gaga song “Born This Way”. People are calling it the “Gay Anthem.” What do yo think?

Enjoy 😛

Wanda Sykes on Gay Marriage

I just thought this was a funny, yet truthful argument pro gay marriage.

Enjoy.

Gay Bashing…

So, I was at a “Coming Out Dance” a few days ago and the dance was interrupted by a gay bashing. According to my sources a gay man was socked in the face by heterosexual man ( I will leave race out of this ). Of course, I suspect the gay man was edging the heterosexual man on. However, why do you think socking someone in their face would solve anything? Also, what are you trying to prove by doing so?

Please, enlighten me, why do people resort to violence? Has our society not grown from the past? It is as if the “past is repeating” First, with the Woman’s Movement, then with desegregation of Blacks, and now with the LGBT community, all striving for acceptance. Must we have to go through such idiotic treatment because people still can’t get past their differences and just accept.

Lastly, I wanna leave with this,  just like Martin Luther King said, we must fight without using violence. We must use our minds to influence through words, politics, and movements. I cannot emphasize this enough.

Please, let me know your thoughts on this. If you know anyone that has been a victim of gay bashing please share their story. Also, if you feel as though gay bashing is appropriate then let me know why?

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