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Questions Students May Ask and Possible Reponses About Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender People

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I have found a pdf from HRC that can help adults answer questions asked by children that they don’t fully understand. However, I think this pdf can help people of all ages, please take a look.

Here is a little snippet, I will provide the pdf at the bottom.

What does “gay” mean?
Being gay means that a person loves, in a very special way, someone who is the same gender. For example, a gay man wants to be involved with and love another man. A gay woman, or
lesbian, wants to be involved with and love another woman. Gay people might choose to have a special relationship with someone and share their home and have a family together. Keep it simple. Focus on relationships and family. For older students you could say, “Men who are attracted to and want to have romantic relationships with men.” Or, “Women who are attracted to and want to have romantic relationships with women.” (Note: For more definitions see: What Does Gay Mean? on page C2)

 

What’s a lesbian?
The word “lesbian” describes a woman who is attracted to and wants to have a romantic relationship with a woman. Or you could say that a lesbian is a woman who wants to fall in love with or is in love with another woman in a very special way. How does someone know if they are gay? At what age do you become gay? Some people may realize they are gay when they are teenagers, while others may not figure it out until they are much older. Being gay has to do with a feeling deep inside of you. (Note: People who are LGBT often say they may have felt different when they were younger but that they didn’t
identify this feeling of difference with being gay until they were teenagers or older.)

 

Are you born LGBT?
People don’t know for sure. Scientists have not been able to agree about why some people are LGBT. However, most scientists believe that sexual orientation is just a part of who you are when you are born. (According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Sexual orientation probably is not determined by any one factor but by a combination of genetic, hormonal and environmental influences. In recent decades, biologically based theories have been favored by experts.”1)

 

Is it a choice?
No, it is not a choice. People don’t choose to be gay or not. As people grow older they become aware of feeling attracted to others, whether those feelings are for someone of the same gender, a different gender or both. (According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Sexual orientation is usually established during early childhood.”2)

Questions Students May Ask and Possible Reponses About Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender People

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Pray Away the Gay Tour: Two gay men get married after meeting at “Ex-Gay” ministry, Love in action.

Truth Wins Out invited KC and Larry to Memphis to speak at Rhodes College on the closing night of TWO Executive Director Wayne Besen’s Winter Tour.  The speaking engagement brought KC & Larry back to where it all began — at the Memphis “ex-gay” ministry!

 

 

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“Ex-Gay” Ministries

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So I was looking for something to write about and I came across this article by TWO called “Here is Why People Disrespect So-Called “Ex-Gays” Like Christopher Doyle“. Unfortunately, there was much ranting and non-existent statistics and facts that backed his article. So I brought it upon myself to find these statistics and facts that can finally prove what the value of these ministries are.

On a side note, I will not recognize “ex-gay’s” as a sexual orientation and will continue to put the name in quotations. 🙂

For you that don’t know what “Ex-gay” ministries are let me explain: “Ex-gay,” according to Wikipedia, is a term and concept used to describe persons who were once considered to be gay, lesbian or bisexual, but who no longer assert that identity. The goal of these ministries is toconvert gays and lesbians from having a homosexual orientation into heterosexuals,” ultimately.
Oh, by the way, I have provided all of my sources which are at the bottom for your reference. Enjoy.

To continue, Dr Ariel Shidlo and Dr. Michael Schroeder, mind you that there are no evidence of bias, did a 7-year study of “ex-gays” called “Changing Sexual Orientation: a consumer’s report” that was published in a peer reviewed journal in 2001. Pretty much, the study was based on the success rate, or should I say, failure rate of “Ex-gay” Ministries. Here are the results:

Study subjects: 202
Number that were no longer struggling and were fully heterosexual: 8
Of those 8, number that were not employees or volunteers of ex-gay groups: 1
Number that felt they had failed: 176
Number who felt conversion had done long term harm: 155
Number who attempted suicide during therapy: 23
Number who attempted suicide after therapy: 11
Number who reported spiritual harm: 100

It makes you wonder why these practices are permitted logically, morally and ethically. Even before 1973, when the American Psychological Association eliminated homosexuality as a mental disorder (Bayer, 1981), repeated studies by top mental health researchers confirmed it was virtually impossible to change someone’s sexual orientation, even through behavioral therapy measures such as electric shock treatments and pain therapy (aversive conditioning), hypnosis, psychotropic medications, clinical/religious individual and group therapy, and others had been employed (Shidlo & Schroeder, 2002; Spitzer, 2003). Even now the American Psychological Association, in bold, concludes “efforts to change sexual orientation are unlikely to be successful and involve some risk of harm.” They also go on to say “Same-sex sexual attractions, behavior, and orientations per se are normal and positive variants of human sexuality—in other words, they do not indicate either mental or developmental disorders…Gay men, lesbians, and bisexual individuals form stable, committed relationships and families that are equivalent to heterosexual relationships and families in essential respects.”

To close, there is more proof that these ministries are illegitimate: One of the most outspoken people claiming that they were “cured” was John Paulk, who became active with the anti-gay groups Focus on the Family and Exodus. He was “cured” to the point that, after marrying and having children, he went to the Washington D.C. gay bar Mr. P’s where he purchased drinks for other bar patrons for over an hour and later claimed he did not know it was a gay bar and only entered to use the restroom.

Please, people understand that you can not believe everything you read or hear and know that some people will do whatever they can to persuade you to do what they want. Understand that a “fact” without reoccurring proof from unbiased, un-benefiting individuals is not a fact but a warped lie and opinion. Please do your own research and come up with your own conclusion instead of letting someone else make them for you. Research the links I have provided and more. I even challenge you to prove me wrong. Please, don’t get scammed.

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Sources:

http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_evan.htm

http://www.truthwinsout.org/pressreleases/2011/03/15085/

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080717192807AA99Eyl

http://a_musing.blogspot.com/2006/05/ex-gay-statistics-101.html

http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/sexual-orientation.aspx

http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/Paulk-Southern%20Voice.html

Callifornia getting closer to lifting the Ban on gay marriage?

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California‘s Attorney General, Kamala Harris, requested Tuesday to an appeals court to consider the constitutionality of California’s gay marriage ban after a week before the Obama administration said it would no longer defend a federal law that prohibits the U.S. from recognizing gay unions.

The two action, together are a blow to Proposition 8, opponents to gay marriage, and the voter-approved initiative that banned the unions in California in 2008.

In a letter to the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, Harris joined the lawyers for two same-sex couples and the city of San Francisco in seeking the resumption of gay marriages in California. The unions were put on hold while Proposition 8’s sponsors appeal a trial judge’s ruling striking down the ban.

 

So what do you think?? Is California indeed going to release its ban on gay marriage?

 

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Westboro Church Protected by First Amendment

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Sad sad day for the US…. there in not more to be said than what the article has provided. This article can be found here.

Matthew Snyder, a United Stated Marine, died in Iraq in 2006 and his body was returned to the United States for burial. Members of the Westboro Baptist Church, who have picketed military funerals for several years, decided to protest outside the Westminster, Md., church where his funeral was to be held.

The Rev. Fred Phelps and his family members who make up most of the Westboro Baptist Church have picketed many military funerals in their quest to draw attention to their incendiary view that U.S. deaths in Afghanistan and Iraq are God’s punishment for the nation’s tolerance of homosexuality.

They showed up with their usual signs, including “Thank God for dead soldiers,” “You’re Going to Hell,” “God Hates the USA/Thank God for 9/11,” and one that combined the U.S. Marine Corps motto, Semper Fi, with a slur against gay men.

The church members drew counter-demonstrators, as well as media coverage and a heavy police presence to maintain order. The result was a spectacle that led to altering the route of the funeral procession.

Several weeks later, Albert Snyder was surfing the Internet for tributes to his son from other soldiers and strangers when he came upon a poem on the church’s website that attacked Matthew’s parents for the way they brought up their son.

Soon after, Snyder filed a lawsuit accusing the Phelpses of intentionally inflicting emotional distress. He won $11 million at trial, later reduced by a judge to $5 million.

The Supreme Court ruled Wednesday that the First Amendment protects fundamentalist church members who mount anti-gay protests outside military funerals, despite the pain they cause grieving families.

The court voted 8-1 in favor of the Westboro Baptist Church of Topeka, Kan. The decision upheld an appeals court ruling that threw out a $5 million judgment to the father of a dead Marine who sued church members after they picketed his son’s funeral.

Chief Justice John Roberts wrote the opinion for the court. Justice Samuel Alito dissented.

Roberts said free speech rights in the First Amendment shield the funeral protesters, noting that they obeyed police directions and were 1,000 feet from the church.

“Speech is powerful. It can stir people to action, move them to tears of both joy and sorrow, and – as it did here – inflict great pain. On the facts before us, we cannot react to that pain by punishing the speaker,” Roberts said. “As a nation we have chosen a different course – to protect even hurtful speech on public issues to ensure that we do not stifle public debate.”

Alito strongly disagreed. “Our profound national commitment to free and open debate is not a license for the vicious verbal assault that occurred in this case,” he said.

The federal appeals court in Richmond, Va., threw out the verdict and said the Constitution shielded the church members from liability.

Forty-eight states, 42 U.S. senators and veterans groups sided with Snyder, asking the court to shield funerals from the Phelps family’s “psychological terrorism.”

While distancing themselves from the church’s message, media organizations, including The Associated Press, urged the court to side with the Phelps family because of concerns that a victory for Snyder could erode speech rights.

Roberts described the court’s holding as narrow, and in a separate opinion, Justice Stephen Breyer suggested in other circumstances, governments would not be “powerless to provide private individuals with necessary protection.”

But in this case, Breyer said, it would be wrong to “punish Westboro for seeking to communicate its views on matters of public concern.”

Margie Phelps, a daughter of the minister and a lawyer who argued the case at the Supreme Court, said she expected the outcome. “The only surprise is that Justice Alito did not feel compelled to follow his oath,” Phelps said. “We read the law. We follow the law. The only way for a different ruling is to shred the First Amendment.”

She also offered her church’s view of the decision. “I think it’s pretty self-explanatory, but here’s the core point: The wrath of God is pouring onto this land. Rather than trying to shut us up, use your platforms to tell this nation to mourn for your sins.”

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Funny Quote of the Day

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The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love heterosexuals. It’s just that they need more supervision. ~Lynn Lavner

 

Wonderful isn’t!

 

 

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Gay Sex Vs. Straight Sex and Much more.

Oh Wow. I found this post from okCupid with a lot of great statistics :). Feel free to check it out. Click Here to go to the site.

The site has statistics that show that gay men and woman are not, based on statistics, attracted to straight people. Based on the number of match searches members of each sexual orientation they have found:

Match Search Returns

  • only 0.6% of gay men have ever searched for straight matches.
  • only 0.1% of lesbians have ever searched for straight matches.
  • only 0.13% of straight people’s profile visitors are gay. “

Also they show that gay people aren’t, statically, promiscuous. Based on a study of the number of sex partners each sexual orientation that has had sexual relations with here is what they have come up with:

Median Reported Sex Partners
  • straight men: 6
  • gay men: 6
  • straight women: 6
  • gay women: 6
  • 45% of gay people have had 5 or fewer partners (vs. 44% for straights)
  • 98% of gay people have had 20 or fewer partners (vs. 99% for straights)

According to this data only 2% of the gay people actually fall into the group “promiscuous.”

252,900 straight people were asked the question: have you ever had a sexual encounter with someone of the same sex? The results were amazing!!

For men women combined the results were:

For men alone the results were:

And for women alone the results were:

Obviously, this was pretty clear:

    Straight women’s same-sex desires: 

  • 1 in 3 straight women have hooked up with another woman.
  • and of those who haven’t, over 1 in 4 would like to.

There is a lot more on the site. Check it out 🙂

have you ever had a sexual encounter with someone of the same sex?

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